Tuesday, September 18, 2007

You Rise and Meet the Day (Dar Williams)

Today is my 31st wedding anniversary - it's been a long-standing joke of mine that, like the famous 12-step program, we do our marriage One Day at a Time (that's 11,315 days... but who's counting?... :-)

My husband R is of Brazilian descent and I am of Italian/Native American heritage... so emotions run high most of the time - we pendulum between pondering what to name our wished-for houseboat when we retire... to me threatening to run away with the Renaissance Festival each February.

When it comes to troubleshooting, I am in constant awe of R's ability to stay calm, to let go and to move forward, in all aspects of his life - his oft-repeated phrase is "let's not worry about how something got to be a problem - let's just figure out how to fix it". Wow - with my tendency to finger-point, internalize and dramatize, he sets a wonderful example...

So much more to say and my brain just won't go there right now - I think I'm in overwhelmed, speechless mode (take a picture... :-)

Cheers to the two of us for our perseverence, patience and passion with each other - tomorrow is another day!

P.S. In honor of us, Relationships will be the theme the remainder of the week...

SONG: You Rise and Meet the Day by Dar Williams

BOOK: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix

POEM: I Married You by Linda Pastan

I married you
for all the wrong reasons,
charmed by your
dangerous family history,
by the innocent muscles, bulging
like hidden weapons
under your shirt,
by your naive ties, the colors
of painted scraps of sunset.
I was charmed too
by your assumptions
about me: my serenity—
that mirror waiting to be cracked,
my flashy acrobatics with knives
in the kitchen.
How wrong we both were
about each other,
and how happy we have been.

QUOTE: "Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle." ~ Amy Bloom


  1. Happy Belated Anniversary, my dear friend! oxoox

  2. Hey, M ~

    Thanks for the well-wishes - we had hoped to take a weekend away (if only to a hotel on Ft. Lauderdale beach), but various expenses (raised homeowners insurance/new hard drive/Eric's tuition) have conspired to postpone...

    Oh (three-second pause) well - we'll get away when we're meant... :-)